Showing posts with label 2015. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 2015. Show all posts

Monday, March 16, 2015

Be a Baby, the 4 P's of an Entrepreneur



Almost a year ago, I took on a new role as an Uncle and have been fortunate enough to spend a lot of time with my niece since I have been back here in the states. As I write this, she will be turning 11-months, boy times fly!

Being the (favorite) uncle, I have taken the night shift, fed her, and even changed a couple of dirty diapers. The best parts have been just spending time with her and watching her grow, laugh, and develop. In pure curiosity, I have been analyzing her behaviors and reactions and I realized that being an entrepreneur is not so different from being a baby.

If you have read my past post “4 P’s of a Professional,” the 4 P’s here are the same but it has a different interpretation as an entrepreneur.  When you were born, you were born with the entrepreneurial spirit but it has been long forgotten… until now.

Passion. What drives you to do what you do? If you said success, wealth, or fame, you are in the wrong business. These items are just the side effects of what you want to do. Think about it, what keeps you moving forward this path, a path that is filled with stress, not knowing what tomorrow is going to be like, and meeting people who, quite frankly, will disappoint you. It is a steep hill that requires sacrifices and risks as stepping stones to move up. It is not an easy road, so what gets you up from a restless night to continue on this path every day? For me, it is doing something with my life that impacts others. From creating a family business to employing people, in general, I am motivated to empower others to push their limits, to grow, and to be their own success story. My passion is to create a better life for those that have supported my dream. Find out what matters to you, use it to lead you as everything else like success, wealth, and fame will follow.

Like a Baby: A baby will do what they want and follow no one’s schedule but their own. If they want to play, then they will laugh. If they are hungry, they will cry. If they want to use the bathroom, they will right then and there. Their passion is simply to live, on their own terms.

Pain. Do you embrace failures? The biggest thing that entrepreneurs need to do, is to embrace failure, change, and learn to let things go. When we hear the word “failure,” there is a negative connotation to it. If you treat it right, it is actually a positive thing. Entrepreneurs should treat failures as lessons learned and move forward with it. When I decided to close down my first office and product, after putting nearly $50,000 and a years’ worth of time, it was devastating emotionally and mentally. Yes, I failed my first product and my team but that’s ok. The lessons, decision making skills, and management tools that were forged from that, allowed me to move forward on to my next idea. The great thing about failure is that it’s in the past, so make the necessary changes now so that you can continue forward tomorrow. You have to learn to let things, people, and ideas go. Why hold onto dead weight that will slow down your progress?

Like a Baby: From learning to hold a bottle to falling down while trying to sit for the first time, a baby will continue to test their motor skills, learning and adapting to the current situation. Do you ever see a baby just give up? They will continue to try to do new things until they learn and move to the next thing, no matter how many times they bump their head or fall down.

Persistent. Do you keep going despite everything else? If you can endure the pain and lead with your passion, you will continue to progress. Some days, I wonder to myself why do I keep on doing what I am doing. Despite not having a paycheck for almost 2 years, constant stress of company operations and finances, and the deliberating if my next idea will go anywhere, I am ok with it. I can tell you that real entrepreneurs are survivors. They will take the risks, make the sacrifices, and fight until they cannot fight any more. Recently, I took a part-time job going door-to-door (yes, people still do that) to help ends meet, financially. Since it was consuming more time than expected, I left it but hey, I was able to pay my bills for that month. I am not ready to quit with my app looking to launch in a couple of weeks and I am willing to do anything to see this through. As an entrepreneur, do not let excuses or reasons why not to be used as crutches, instead put everything into what you believe in and do what is necessary. To give a start-up the chance to succeed, you have to throw all your time and energy into it, otherwise, it is just a hobby.

Like a Baby: When a baby wants something, they will release all of their emotions/cry until they get it. They could be hungry, not feeling well, or even dirtied their diaper. Regardless, they have a relentless amount of energy to fight for what they want until they are satisfied. If you have ever held a crying baby or been there when they are teething for the first time, you know what I am talking about.

Progress. Are you listening to your gut? In whatever industry your start-up is in, it is continuously changing. You can either stay where you are at or continue to innovate. There will always be some sort of competitor that will have a better product/service so keep that fear inside of you. Sometimes it requires you to let your idea go or even make the changes to something you thought you perfected, either way your gut will let you know. When I created my first website product, I knew there were similar competitors out there but I wanted to keep going until my original idea came into fruition. Instead of shutting it down early and move to an app version of it, I kept putting more time and money into it even when I had people tell me they will wait for the app to come out instead. My gut even told me that it was time to make that change and yet, I did not listen and that lesson became a pricey one. Progress requires you to continue to grow yourself, through chatting with your mentor, reading about industry trends, and collaborating with your target audience about ways to better their experience. Through that data and understanding, it transforms into information and knowledge to be used, a built-in adviser I call your gut.

Like a Baby: Watch a baby play with their toys. Noticed how easily they move on from one toy to another because they got bored of it or something else sparked their interest? They are always curious, wanting to learn about the environment they are in and to better understand it.

Letting your Passion lead you, enduring the Pain from getting kicked down over and over again, being tirelessly Persistent, and adapting to your environment to Progress forward makes an Entrepreneur a survivor, a warrior, and a baby. These 4 P’s cannot stand alone, they rely on each other and blend together to make what an Entrepreneur is today. Igniting that fire in you is just a start. It’s the what, when, why, who, and how to keep the fire going is the most important quality you need to have as an Entrepreneur.

Would love to hear your feedback and your story!

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

2014 was Hell, but a Blessing

To those that have been following my blog or social media posts, you have seen that my 2014 was a living nightmare both on a personal and professional level. It was a year I lost my little brother, closed down an office I built, and shut down my first product. It was a hellish storm that I had to choose to navigate through or drown in.

As I look back on 2014 and wonder why things happen like it did, I learned that this year has been a blessing and here are the lessons I wanted to share with you:

1. Personally, I found family again.

Being away from home for the past 7+ years, I was focused on work, all I did was work so that I can move up fast. Visiting family occurred once a year (for a max of 1 week) and doing nothing but taking advantage of the fact that my family will “always” be there, it was a cycle on autopilot.

To those that are in the same work mindset as me, I have one thing to say: “Work will always be there, family time is a fading asset.” I can promise that through the worst parts of your life, your family and their support will rejuvenate and heal your soul better than anything you can buy. Take the time to hang out with your family and friends and don't let holidays be the excuse to do it.

2. Professionally, I moved forward.

When you have an idea, it’s your baby and you do not want to give it up. You want to keep going, hoping something big would happen. Sadly, it happens 50% of the time. When I created MeSocial, my gut told me at the beginning of this year to give up on the website product and to move on with a mobile app idea. 6-months and tens of thousands dollars later, I have learned this lesson. To my fellow entrepreneurs, listen to your gut, follow the market trends, and most importantly, learn to let go. It will save you the time and money. And this app? Well, stay tuned for our New Year announcement!

3. Overall, I removed negative, stressful people.


If you have never experienced a loss of a loved one, it is hard to process when others around you go through it. When I told someone that my best friend passed away, he gave me a blank stare and did not say one word. “I’m sorry,” “Keeping you and your family in my prayers,” and “I’m hurting with you” are simple words that have a meaningful impact to those who are grieving. I now have been on both sides and all I can tell you is do not sit in silence. Your real friends (the expected and even the unexpected) will be there for you, keep them and forget the others. At the end of the day, you need people that can stand by you.

In my entire career, I have only fired 3 individuals and they all share 3 common traits: constantly making excuses, ability to not progress, and behaved selfishly. To those that manage a team and to my fellow entrepreneurs, always listen to your gut about people and remove those individuals sooner rather than later. The amount of stress that is removed, surpasses any guilt for letting a “nice” person go. It is your team/company, protect it and drop the dead weight so that you can move forward.


As I look forward to 2015, I am better equipped to take on the next challenges and I have to thank 2014 for it. It was never ideal but what situation ever is? I can never wish for 2014 not to happen, how else would I ever learn about these perspectives? Yes, it sucked. Yes, I grew from it.

I hope my lessons learned help you navigate your storm. Here is to a better New Year!